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All human
suffering is an experience based on value judgements of what is
good and bad. |
A judgment is labeling some thing, person, or event as good or bad,
based on your belief system. Lets take a look at the concepts of good
and bad.
Does anything carry with it a value of good or bad, independent of human
evaluation? Are good and bad inherent qualities or human assessments?
Is any event, person, thing, circumstance inherently (exists as a permanent
condition) good or bad? Or are they labels we use to define what we want
and dont want?
How does Webster define "good?"
good (gud) adj. serving its purpose
well || having desired qualities || virtuous, kind, well-behaved,
agreeable, pleasant, beneficial, worthwhile, profitable, efficient,
competent, capable, safe, and valid.
The key phrase in that definition is "having desired qualities." We
define good as being something we want. And look
at the
words used to define good. Are they not what we desire? For example,
we want our children to be well behaved .We want our lives to be easy,
to be around people who are pleasant and kind. We want what we do to
be worthwhile, efficient, and hopefully, profitable. We want to
feel safe, etc.
What about "bad?"
bad (będ) wicked, evil || defective, inadequate ||
not prosperous || unwelcome || distressing, disagreeable, upset, harmful,
and unskilled.
Again, look at the words. Arent they simply defining what we dont
want as "bad"? We dont want items that are defective.
We dont want a corrupt government. We dont want to be poor.
....on and on...you get the idea. Good = Want. Bad = Don't Want
What disturbs people's minds is not events,
but their judgments on events.
- Epictetus, 100 A.D
If good and bad were inherent qualities (true regardless of our assessments),
then they would remain the same throughout time. History has shown this
to not be true. Through out lineage, what weve called good and
bad has changed.
So if "good and bad" are assessments, then you are free to
re-evaluate those assessments. When you look at situations (and yourself)
in terms of desires, and not as value judgments, you
remove the negative connotations associated with "good and bad".
The examination of the situation becomes less volatile and hostile. You
can simply make an observation, notice what you want or don't want, and
respond according to those desires.
Observation And Value Judgments
Some people say we need judgments to be able to live in this world. How
could I make decisions if I didnt judge? Isn't that how we make
decisions? Lets make a distinction between a value judgment
and an observation.
In an observation we see, hear, feel what is happening around us. We
then state what we see. When were judging something, we go one
step further in the process of observation and add in a subjective evaluation.
We label the event as either good, or bad. THAT, is the value judgment.
You're not removing the decision making process, you're simply replacing "good
and bad" with "I want, I don't want."
How does this apply to accepting yourself? Well, you do the same thing
to yourself. You first make an observation about yourself, ("I am
fat") then decide if its a good or bad thing to be ("It's
bad to be fat"). When we judge something about ourselves as bad,
it becomes impossible for you to accept (be okay with) that part of yourself.
BUT, it is possible to accept (be okay with) your weight and still know
you WANT to be thinner. Make sense?
Judgment stands as an obstacle to self-love.
When you form judgments about another person,
for instance, this person looks like a lazy person,
or a failure, or has terrible clothes, you create
a message to your subconscious that the world
is a place where you had better act in certain
ways if you want to be accepted...that you are
only going to accept yourself under certain
conditions. This leads to an inner dialogue of
self-criticism.
- Orin
What if you were to drop your value judgments and simply saw what
is then identified what you wanted and why? It could totally transform
your experience. What are the ramifications of doing so? Perhaps you
would find a well of love for yourself and others that you never knew
existed. Perhaps you'd notice the less you judge yourself, the less you'll
judge others. And maybe, just maybe, the experience of acceptance would
give you the solid foundation to move forward in creating
yourself and your life the you've always dreamed.
Doing Your Best

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