It's not necessary to describe in detail to me what's going on in your relationship. I honestly have no idea what you should do.
If I did give relationship advice, here is what I'd say...
If you are dating...
- This other person is not going to change. You will never, ever, ever change this
person. Put an enormous amount of weight on what they DO, not what they say.
- Maybe this isn't the one for you. Find someone that loves you with the same
intensity that you love them. You deserve to be loved and treated well.
If you're married...
Your spouse is not going to change. You will never, ever, ever change your spouse.
The only person you can change is you.
- For now, focus on your own personal happiness and what you want most in life.
Only after this is accomplished decide what to do about the marriage.
See, that's not what you wanted to hear!